
In the distance, they hear ruinous bombs detonating near the house they fled only an hour earlier.
Fear and worry overwhelm their hearts and heads.
The ground they walk over is rough and difficult to manage when carrying a one and a 3 year-old… but happily the Jordanian border is just another kilometre or two over the next hill.
Flash floods of humanity rush and surge and overflow upon us… still.
Syria, Central America, Venezuela, South Sudan, Myanmar, Somalia… the list goes on…
Conflict and climate and economic refugees of different stripes and colours and ethnicities continue to pour across borders and oceans like sand slipping between our toes on a warm southern beach.
For many or most of us, this is a distant reality… we see it on TV and read about it in our internet news feeds, but we rarely really touch it with our own eyes and fingers.

For 3 and a half years now, I’ve been getting together once or twice weekly to work on English studies with a man whose life and whose family’s lives have been torn apart for no reason of their making.
He’s a Syrian refugee – one of 5.6 million of his countrymen since 2012 – who was “fortunate” enough not to be one of the hundreds of thousands killed by their own government with Russian complicity.
His parents and siblings have fled their generational homes and are spread far apart in Syria, Jordan, Canada, Denmark, and Britain.
He and I have become good friends, and I’ve gained a tremendous amount of understanding and compassion for the plight of refugees because of our time spent together.
We’ve shared birthday celebrations, and the joy of an additional two births within their family since arriving in Canada.
All of the children speak fluent English (in addition to Arabic) and are now Canadian citizens, while Mom and Dad study in preparation for their citizenship tests which will come up soon.
He didn’t know one word of English when he landed at Pearson Airport in Toronto – but he absorbed “thank you” quickly.
One thing he has since learned – NO, not from me – is the “F” word.
He grins and laughs about it because he knows it wields great power in the English language, although he’s not quite sure why… I haven’t explained that one well to him so far, but I advise him to keep it inside his head (or at least to voice it ONLY in our sessions)!
Today, after 5+ years in their adopted country of Canada, they continue to struggle daily with the sea change that befell them. The confusing blend of cultural and religious differences are akin to mixing oil and water for them.
They are like UFO’s coming to a planet
they have never seen before.
They try. They grapple with totally foreign ideas and social norms, strange foods and ways that people dress. They appreciatively wonder at the acceptance they encounter, and fret about the dark, overt racism that also comes their way.
While appreciating the freedom and safety to raise their children in peace, they can’t help but miss their old lives tremendously.
Canada (government, private sector, and individuals) has done an admirable job of keeping them aloft with financial support for their home, healthcare, educational opportunities, children’s activities… not perfect, but … I am proud of this country that brought them to safety and is able to share its wealth in ensuring they are reasonably comfortable.
For my own small part, I help them over the many hurdles of Western life and government bureaucracies, yet I often feel impotent and powerless to “make things right” for them, even when I know there is much I just cannot do.

Which all brings me to….
… a blog post I wrote on October 19, 2019.
I wrote and posted these song lyrics about this family’s journey to where they are now.
Today, I’m sharing this song with music attached… I’ve removed two of the verses because it was becoming too long (BIG size is a favourite trait of mine that I’m trying to kick (at least in music)).
Finally, in case you’re interested in the anatomy of a song’s production, here are a couple of things to digest.
I’ve added in an underlying deep cello “drone” to hint at slow plodding (like refugees walking) and suggest drama.
And in the chorus, I’m doing a vocal harmony that is a I-VII interval that gives the music a more unsettled or uncomfortable feel that hopefully matches the lyrics. This is instead of the more typically melodic I-III or I-V harmony that we usually expect. Bonus points if you notice.
YOU’RE A UFO
by Larry Green
Schoolyard dust a daily friend
farm that held no borders
The air was calm and warm
your brothers’ calls familiar
then a new day broke hell
with clouds that lit a storm
You packed a bag and wandered far
along quiet lines with others
left your home where soldiers warred
where bombs and bullets threatened
bully tyrant who ripped your life
your tears he never cared for
CHORUS
You’re a UFO that landed
in this universe apart
in hibernation from your nation
soul burned from your heart
and a home that’s just a house
….
Years slid by in sun-baked camp
your eyes so shy, smile drained and dry
yet morning breaks another day
phone call beckoned with your chance
one week later you climbed the steps
to a westward craft of hope
Aliens greeted you with smiles and promise
strange words that made no sense
trembling smiles over months and years
memories crushed under winter’s ice
through long night’s darkness cloak your kids
they never saw your tears
BRIDGE:
How long will this prison hold you?
when will the air smell sweet again?
and carefree gossip with your neighbour
turns your hair to grey
You feel the stares, the daily threat
stories ripped from the news
wander streets with kids in tow
schoolbooks under arms
others spy your covered head and shake
about the dangers you impose
CHORUS
You’re a UFO that landed
in this universe apart
in hibernation from your nation
soul burned across a border
and a home that’s just a… house
May 09, 2021 @ 20:07:30
I must confess to mot thinking too deeply about the turmoil these poor people experience.I have tried to imagine walking even a mile in their shoes.I feel quite ashamed Larry.
This article puts it into a bit more perspective.
It could be us or our friends tomorrow.Man’s inhumanity to man and the whole Global political game is such, that no one is safe and secure in their homeland.
“There but for the Grace of God go I”
May 10, 2021 @ 14:04:39
Hi Florence, and thanks for commenting. I don’t think you need to feel any shame whatsoever. But I believe your words, “It could be us or our friends tomorrow” should be considered seriously, just as we perhaps take things such as safety and democracy for granted too often (that’s a lesson I’ve learned in the past 4 years!). Hope you’ve found some spring in your step as well as in your weather 😉
May 11, 2021 @ 09:11:26
Beautiful music, beautiful, heartfelt words that speak loudly of the meaningfulness of your friendship with this Syrian family, Larry. How fortunate are they to have you in their tragically disrupted lives? And how fortunate you are as well, as we need to understand the consequences and impact of being forced from your home and being relocated to an ‘alien’ existence. 👍
All the best to you, Maureen and fam!
May 11, 2021 @ 19:09:18
Ms. Laurel…HI! Thank you ever so much for your warm and generous comments. You nailed it when you say that I should fortunate too… VERY TRUE… because of these lovely folks, my world grows larger, and my heart feels their many defeats and victories (my stomach also grows larger from lots of homemade hummus and shawarma!). How would I manage if the tables were turned and I was a refugee in a Muslim, Arabic speaking country? Yes, I would then be walking in the “alien” shoes. Hope you and your gang are well too – may Bill’s vegetable garden burst at its borders 😉